Have you ever been careless and broken a favorite cup or vase?
A favorite friend or loved one?
Today my heart is aching over carelessness in a relationship between two people dear to me. It is a difficult situation and thorny to be sure. Have the harsh angry vindictive communications brought it to the point of no return? Sadly, it is at the point where the issues can not be addressed until the heart attitudes are. Yet so intertwined.
Often “bathing with prayer” is the only help we can give in a seemingly unsolvable situation with stubborn hurt people. Years ago, my mom told me when loved ones were having words, she would keep on her knees until the situation changed. She knew there was no other way. You know what? It did change and there was healing and reconciliation.
Hearts and speech can only be changed as we chose to lay aside ourselves and act in humility. We need a willingness to be quick to listen, to be slow to speak and to be slow to be angry. Heart change, humbling ourselves for the good of the other person, for the good of the Body can only come from our surrender and His Spirit working.
To be like Christ can be humiliating. Do we need to recall that He Himself was willing to be humiliated for us? Do we need to be reminded He prayed?
It is a tough situation. But maybe it is not so different from any other we might encounter or be involved in. Being a boss or friend or elder or leader or follower means being careful in our words because we just might break a heart, inflict a wound or stir up trouble. The breaking of a heart could even include our own. Gently moving forward praying all the while that words of grace and admonition can be spoken and heard.
Careless is never a good thing for a believer. Careless is an action of a person who is not intentional and careful in their walk. Okay, maybe we are forgetful, tired, hunger or just tired of the situation. Still isn’t that only an excuse? Striving side by side for the faith of the gospel is too important.
Intentional, deliberate, carefully, softly as soft words can turn away wrath we must discipline ourselves to speak just so. How many more ways do we need to be told? Over and over in the New Testament the instructions are giving.
Don’t we need to be reminded? I do, nearly every day!
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for the building up, as fits the occasion, that may give grace to all who hear. Ephesians 4: 29